True Forgiveness

Forgiveness is usually defined as an action of ceasing to be mad at someone that has caused pain and suffering upon another. It is basically a reaction toward the wrong doing of some kind. The one who is not able to forgive is often stuck in resentment, anger, hurt, pain or guilt. The benefits of forgiveness are clear and realized by many including Doctors and Physiologist, but how does one truly forgive?

Hi, my name is Vivian Amis and this is Beyond Forgiveness

Some say the path to forgiveness is finding compassion …. understanding that they did not know what they were doing or they would have done different. That is one way to fforgiveand a valid one, but from my experience and observation we are still seeing a “wrong” doing on the behalf of the other.

Even if we think we have forgiven…… the pain is not gone. Anyone can say they have forgiven but as long as a wrong done to us is within our consciousness the memory will continue to hunt us over and over again. That is why so many say, I have forgiven but I will never forget. So how does one truly forgive? Is there a way to completely pull the plant by it’s root? Yes there is and you will know that you have truly forgiven when you can see the experience that held you in an emotionally bondage, as a blessing.

Yes, that’s right….a blessing. Every experience is a blessing, but we often cannot see the blessing unless we step away from the experience and look at it from a larger perspective. In order to do this you must bring your awareness into the present.

As you bring your awareness into the present, ask yourself this: did not every experience you ever had make you who you are today?

 If you took but one experience out of your life you would not be who you are today. Now you may not like the person you are today but that is because you don’t believe that you are in truth a beloved child of God in which God sees no fault, no imperfection and by changing your focus of attention you will see it too.

Do this exercise: Take a piece of paper and write down the names of 10 people you know. This could include friends, family members, neighbors or even people you work with. Write down what you love about them. Now look at that list.

Do you know that you could not see something in someone else if it were not also within you? What you see in others is a reflection of who you truly are.

And if you see the good within yourself can we then truly say someone did us wrong if all these good qualities developed in us because of those experiences?  No, there is only love but sometimes we need to look beyond the appearance of things, we need to look through God’s eyes to see a bigger picture, because as long as we think we need to forgive anyone….we have it all wrong.